Engagement myths: busted!

Engagements are a big mix of emotions, expectations, and traditions. However, amidst the chaos of the romance and the planning, there are numerous myths that can cause unnecessary stress to what should be a fun and exciting time. Read on, to find out the myths around engagement – and what their truths are. 

Myth 1: The ‘three months’ salary’ rule 

Busted: One of the biggest proposal myths is that an engagement ring should cost the equivalent of three months’ salary. This rule is not only outdated, but also unrealistic for many. It doesn’t matter how much a ring costs – it should be something your partner loves, that is a realistic budget to you as a couple. The sentiment behind the ring is far more important than the cost. 

Myth 2: Bigger is always better 

Busted: The idea that the bigger the ring = the better the ring should be disregarded, too. A ring should reflect the wearer’s personal style, and not every individual dreams of a large diamond. In fact, some don’t want a diamond at all, or would feel that a large one would be overwhelming or ‘showy’ on their hand. Many couples now prioritise the quality, origin, and design of the ring over sheer size of the stone. Remember, quality over quantity! 

Myth 3: The surprise is essential 

Busted: While big, surprise proposals are depicted as the norm in movies and media, the reality is often different. Most couples nowadays tend to live together before engagement and will have discussed their marriage plans in advance. Additionally, many couples now choose the ring together to ensure it’s exactly what they want. Open communication may mean the proposal isn’t a huge surprise – but that’s no bad thing! 

Myth 4: An engagement ring has to be a diamond  

Busted: Diamonds may be a traditional choice, but they’re certainly not the only option for an engagement ring. As long as gemstones are hard enough on the Mohs scale, they make beautiful engagement ring stones, too. Gemstones like sapphires, rubies, and emeralds are becoming increasingly popular for their uniqueness and meaning. If your partner loves a bit of colour, or wants something a little different, opting for a gemstone engagement ring can be a great, cost-effective option. 

Myth 5: Engagement rings are just for women 

Busted: The tradition of only women wearing engagement rings is fading – some couples now embrace the idea of both partners wearing engagement rings. Additionally, LGBTQ+ couples have been paving new traditions for many years, with some couples choosing both, or even neither, partners wearing an engagement ring. 

Looking for the perfect ring to pop the question? 

Engagements are a personal experience, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. By busting these myths, we hope to encourage you to focus on what truly matters, free from societal pressures and expectations. And if you’re looking for your dream ring, take a look at our selection of beautiful engagement rings and wedding bands.