Can a woman propose to a man?
In times gone by, a proposal was very rigid for heterosexual couples: the man would pick the ring and propose. Nowadays, women are far more involved into the proposal process, even choosing their own ring in some cases. And as traditions change, it’s no wonder that more and more women are proposing to their male partners. Read on for more.
Is it wrong for a woman to propose to a man?
A proposal is – at its core – simply a question: will you marry me? And anyone can ask a question. There is nothing specific about a proposal that a man can only do, or something that a woman cannot – it’s simply years of societal norms that means you may view it this way. But traditions are changing, and year on year more people are simply viewing a proposal as a less male-orientated process, and instead, are embracing it for what it is; a question.
There are no rules to love, and there are certainly no rules to a proposal. It is totally about what suits you, and yours and your partners needs and expectations. A woman can certainly propose to a man. Sure, there may be naysayers, and the older generation might need to come round to the idea, but if it’s right for you, then you shouldn’t let anyone else’s opinions – or outdated traditions – get in the way.
Are there any rules around a woman proposing to a man?
Again, there are no ‘rules’, but there are a few tips we would suggest.
- Keep the proposal unique; you’re in a unique situation, so you don’t need to adhere to societal rules and traditions! Make your proposal idea or location as unique as you are.
- You don’t need to kneel; The act of kneeling comes from medieval knights and old-school chivalry. As you’re not a man, this isn’t necessarily a requirement. Of course, you can do whatever you’d like – and if kneeling seems the right thing for you, then go for it! But don’t feel like you need to conform to traditional engagement tropes.
- Buy two rings; As you’re the proposer, you’ll need to buy a ring for the propose – but where does that leave you? In a traditional heterosexual engagement, the man doesn’t wear a ring. And if you’d like that to be the case, then of course, you don’t need to buy yourself one. But if you’d still like the tradition of wearing an engagement ring yourself, you’ll need to buy yourself one. Alternatively, you can shop around for one with your partner after they’ve said ‘yes’. If you want to bypass the tradition of rings altogether, you could opt for matching pendants or bracelets.
- Leap year myths; You may have heard of the tradition that a woman can propose to a man, but only on a leap year – and only on February 29th itself. This comes from an old Irish tradition. But as you know by now, traditions are meant to be broken – we say propose on whatever day you feel like!
Looking for the perfect ring?
If you’re looking for the perfect ring for yourself, or for your partner, take a look at our beautiful selection of engagement rings, here.
Or if you’re looking for more proposal advice, read more of our helpful guides here, such as; how to propose over the festive period?, how many carats should your engagement ring be?, what should you say when proposing? and which cut of diamond sparkles most?