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How to Choose an Engagement and Wedding Ring That Work Together

It’s not always easy to choose an engagement and wedding ring feel comfortable and look good together.

What’s more, planning your wedding is a busy time. It’s easy to not think too much about your wedding ring until the last minute.

Here’s a stress free guide to getting both your rings right for the big day – and for the rest of your life

First things first: ring size
First and foremost, whenever you buy any ring, always get the correct size first. DIY measurements almost invariably end in disappointment, so use one of these proper methods instead:

• A ring sizer app on your smartphone
• A ring sizer tool (we’ll send you one for free)
• Visit a jeweller and have your finger measured

Three of our unique engagement rings on our jeweller's ring size measuring tool

Rings from our Unique Engagement range – seen on our jeweller’s ring measuring tool


(Do you have an engagement ring already? If so, just skip to the next part!)

About engagement ring styles
When considering engagement rings, the main thing to think about is a design the bride will love. This may sound like a no-brainer, but many grooms who shopping alone get too fixated on the technicalities and forget that an engagement ring is meant to look beautiful to her.

When researching for the engagement ring styles, start by looking at her clothing. If she likes understated, elegant outfits, then a simple solitaire is best. If she prefers big, luxurious accessories, you should buy a more extravagant ring. Grooms can also get great advice from the bride’s friends or sisters as they’ll understand her taste.

Sapphire engagement rings in pink and blue

View now: Blue Sapphire Rings – Pink Sapphire Rings

Most popular engagement ring designs

  • Solitaire – one single diamond
  • Halo – a solitaire diamond that’s surrounded by smaller stones
  • Sidestones – additional diamonds on the ring’s band
  • Cluster – many small diamonds set together to create a larger shape
  • Gems – colourful gemstones like sapphires, emeralds and rubies

View ring styles: Solitaire, Halo, Sidestones, ClusterSapphire

Choosing the metal
Next, you should decide on the precious metal for the ring’s band. The traditional choice is yellow gold. Then there are the white precious metals, white gold, platinum or palladium. You could also go for rose gold, which has a delicate pink tone.

18K gold (whether yellow, white or rose gold) contains 75% gold and therefore it’s more expensive than 9K gold, which only contains 38% gold. Platinum is the toughest and most lasting of all the precious metals, but it’s also the most expensive. If you can afford it, this would be the metal most recommended by jewellers because if its aptness for a lifetime of wear.

Rose Gold and diamond engagement ring from Martini Collection at

View now Martini Rose Gold Diamond Ring

How sparkly is your diamond shape?
Most brides expect their diamond to sparkle. Because the ‘sparkle factor’ depends on the diamond’s cut, it’s useful to understand the effect your diamond shape has on it:

  • Round cut – The sparkliest shape with most facets
  • Princess cut – Square, almost as sparkly as the round cut
  • Marquise cut – Two rounded sides tapering to points, medium sparkle
  • Pear shape – Like a teardrop, medium sparkle
  • Emerald, baguette and cushion cuts – Rectangular shapes with  flat top, give off long flashes of light rather than sparkle

Hover your mouse over the images to see which is which:

View ring styles: Round, Princess, Marquise, Pear, Emerald Cut

Diamond quality
It’s recommended you familiarise yourself with the basic diamond quality factors, but don’t get too hung up on the technical detail – a trustworthy jeweller can help you find the best diamond grade for your money, once you’ve chosen what style of ring you’d like and decided your budget. Want to learn more? Read our 5 Most Asked Diamond Questions.

On a small budget, buy lots of small diamonds for big effect
If you know she wants a big ring but you have a small budget, buy her a diamond cluster ring. This means that the ring is made of lots of small diamonds grouped together, rather than one solitaire diamond. Several small diamonds will actually cost you less than one big one. For instance, the below ring costs only around £500 – click on it to find out more.


View now Galileo Diamond Cluster Ring – Approx. £500


It’s vital that your rings sit comfortably next to each other – both in terms of style and design.


Queen Elizabeth II’s wedding and engagement rings

Mixing metals
The first thing you should know is that your wedding band and engagement rings don’t have to be made of matching colour precious metals. So it’s fine to have a yellow gold engagement ring and a white gold or platinum wedding ring, or the other way round. Queen Elizabeth II’s rings are perfect proof that this is acceptable etiquette.

Mixing vintage styles
It’s OK to mix and match different vintage styles as long as the designs are along the same lines. Just try to avoid extreme differences in design eras, as their styles can clash. For instance, a classic gemstone engagement ring can look great with a diamond eternity wedding band. But an ornate Victorian style halo engagement ring might not go that well with a modern wedding ring with geometric lines.

Diamond wedding rings
If you want spectacular sparkle, choose a wedding band with diamonds. These come in two styles: with stones going around the entire ring (like an eternity ring) or with diamonds along the top of the band.

Solutions to clashing styles and sizes
A solitaire engagement ring that has a large stone can leave a gap between itself and the wedding band, as it pushes your wedding ring away.

Solution 1 – Wishbone Rings: These have a V-shape that gives space for the engagement ring stone.

Diamond wishbone wedding ring

Click to view: Diamond wishbone ring

Solution 1 – Bridal Sets: There are a couple of ways to avoid this problem. One is to pick a bridal set with a perfectly matching wedding band and engagement ring. These come as a set and are made to fit together so that the wedding ring “curves” around the engagement ring’s stone.


View now Perfectly Matching Engage,ent & Wedding Ring Set

One final tip
Always order your rings at least 3 months before your wedding. The last hectic months before the big day can often mean that you’ll leave the rings until the last moment. However, most jewellers do not carry all the sizes and styles in stock, so you may have to order yours in advance – and this could take anywhere from a few days to several weeks. In order to get the rings you truly want, it’s sensible to order early.

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